Love or Be Loved

I’m sure everyone at least one point played “would you rather?” if not they heard of it.

But for the people who never played it or heard of it. It’s actually an interesting game, you are faced with two difficult choices and you have to CHOOSE one.

Would you rather freeze to death or burn to death (not dying is not an option).

It’s hard because they are both pretty terrible. But it also can go to two extreme goods like would you rather “love or be loved.” It’s safe to say most of us want both right?

However you can only pick one.

The most common answer I usually hear is “Be Loved”. A lot of people just want to be loved and I don’t blame them.

But for me. I always choose to “love”.

I know I sound crazy…. Hear me out though.

When you love someone, it’s your choice  “kind of” you can’t help what you feel towards people but you make the choice whether or not they will participate in your life. If you choose “yes” then you’re allowing yourself to love them by being around them.

So you’re somewhat in control, and if they disappoint you, it’s that easy for you to walk away…

To be loved however, i find it much harder and more frightening because you want to cultivate that affection, so you have to live up to their expectations, but it’s human nature to drop the ball sometimes.

To me is scarier to disappoint someone, than be disappointed.

As selfish as this sounds I rather feel they are not enough, than me not being enough. For that reason, healthy relationships, prince charming, polite men. SCARE THE LIVING SHIT OUT OF ME

I will always be drawn to the bad boys who couldn’t care less for me, emotionally unavailable, or just as sick as me.

When it doesn’t work out, I don’t feel bad.

“it’s not me, it’s you.”

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